“It was the 28th of November, that day I’ll always remember…cuz that was the day that my daddy died.”
I lost my father on Thanksgiving Day November 28, 1991. For several years I couldn’t eat turkey in any way shape or form. I was fully aware it was psychological. (Most likely my aversion to raw tomatoes is psychological too!) But, I couldn’t abide the smell or taste or texture of the traditional bird.
This year Thanksgiving falls on November 26. I actually like the way holidays bounce around on the calendar. Every so often my birthday falls on Easter Sunday. The last time it did, 2005, I broke my ankle at the stroke of midnight and spent Easter Sunday/birthday with my sister, Cathy, in the Emergency Room at St. Rose de Lima Hospital in Henderson. HOPPY Birthday was my mantra that day.
Death is as normal and as constant as birth and every human since time began suffers both. Some of us, however, seem to be plagued with losses at holidays. I have a litany of those losses: Thanksgiving, Christmas Day, Christmas Eve, and St. Patrick’s Day. That some choose, are chosen, or simply exit on or near holidays or special occasions certainly doesn’t detract from the loss of other loved ones.
While we are all doomed to die we are not destined to decay. This holiday season think about what you can do to maintain your health and vitality. “Be” a favor to your loved ones. Eat sensibly, don’t abuse alcohol or tobacco. Most important of all, l can’t stress this enough, MOST IMPORTANT of all—exercise regularly. Daily. Do something, anything that gets your heart rate up and makes your muscles ache. That aching means your muscles have been stressed. Which in turn means your body sends its army of reparative cells to the rescue: cleaning out the old debris and decay and making new and vital tissue.
Our loved ones are with us in spirit no matter where we are or what time of the year it is. Rather than carry ghosts around, rejoice in the memories and the time spent with loved ones. Live life like you’re living it for those departed. Honor their deaths with your life well-lived. After all, one day… you’ll be together again.
